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5 Jun

Now I could write SEVERAL posts on hypocrisy in this world. Today, however, I’m going to talk about the relatively dated issue of “image”, more specifically the external appearance that is expected of you by society.

We think we’ve come a long way, tackling eating disorders openly, (less effectively by criticising people who are “too thin”), bashing the “Size-Zero” culture and everyone telling us variations of “It’s what’s inside that counts”.

Firstly, it’s all a little bit fake.  The same films which try to make us believe we can MAKE IT IN LIFE as long as we work hard, irrespective of our looks, are the same ones inadvertently implying we can, in fact, only do so whilst adhering to particular, shallow, ‘standards’. It’s ironic that the same media (not that everyone in the “media” promotes the same values) that is telling us “real girls have CURVES” is the same media plastered with the tall, skinny, wrinkle-free stereotype and incessant advice on diets that will help you “get that Bikini body NOW!”. Bi-polar pop culture?

Anyway, society’s hilarious hypocrisy is not actually the point. Even if the “curvy gals” were winning the size debate, you’re just criticising another body type rather than promoting acceptance of everyone. The same goes for this 24/7 gym hype image asking us “what’s your excuse?” for spending any free time outside the gym. They’re all wrong.

A mother answers this here: http://www.theinklingsoflife.com/2012/10/my-excuses-for-not-looking-like-maria.html , despite still trying to argue what a “real” woman is..

So long as society concentrates so much on image and appearance, the inevitable occurs. Criticism, judgement, insecurity, pressure, the list could go on…  Obviously I think that so long as you’re not in some sort of health risk (either morbidly obese or dying of starvation) your weight is a personal issue but at this stage we’re just going to find a multitude of other shallow conditions to judge each other by: boobs, bums, height, facial features and so on. Guess what they’ve all got in common? Irrational and shallow qualities to judge by.

History and cultural differences have shown as that beauty is completely subjective so let’s stop trying to mould ourselves into a narrow, unattainable and destructive image. What we should be criticising are the negative and obviously unhealthy features of a society which has made drugs/alcoholism/promiscuity a normality for the youth (and the not-so-youthful).

Rather than being defined by our looks or our “fashion faux pas”, let’s change track and start defining ourselves by our achievements, our passions and our true qualities.

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Cultural Things that Annoy Me

14 May

Warning: this is pretty much just a rant but ENJOY! In no particular order:

1. Taking pictures on the toilet – What are you doing? No one wants to look at that. I really don’t understand this trend…

2. Small talk – in certain situations it is pretty unavoidable so I cannot pin the blame. However, if we know each other, please don’t talk to me about how much work you have or conversations we’ve had a billion times or other totally irrelevant topics, I really don’t mind just standing next to you in silence.

3. Shortened names – in themselves are fine. Yet, when people throw bricks at you for addressing them by their full rather than shortened name it’s like CALM DOWN they sound practically the same.. You don’t “hate” it so much so stop lying.

4. Sexual Orientation – No judgement being passed here. What does annoy me though is when teenagers claim they are bisexual etc…blatantly only for attention. Please find other ways to impress people…

5. “No offence but..” – You might as well just insult me without the PRETEXT ok – I think it actually makes me more angry/insulted than if you had just said what you wanted to say.

6. Hypersexual youth – It makes me really sad to see 10 year olds walking around wearing make-up and mini-skirts – EMBRACE YOUR YOUTH please. I blame the media. Everyone always blames the media.

7. Chav pants – Why are your trousers around your ankles? We don’t want to see your behind, you can’t even walk properly and you definitely don’t look “cool”.

8. Cynicism of the youth – you have achieved nothing – don’t criticise someone who has actually done something with their life, for no reason whatsoever.

9. “Grammar Nazis” – particularly annoying in debates. If you have resorted to commenting on my spelling and/or Grammar, you have clearly lost the argument. Please leave.

10. Americanisms – If you’re in the UK, don’t speak with these. Ever. http://blogs.telegraph.co.uk/news/tobyharnden/6043777/Top_10_most_annoying_Americanisms/

11. Not knowing who the Prime Minister is – yet knowing who’s getting with who on Geordie Shore or whatever they watch. (I think this has turned into a rant at the youth of today – despite me technically being a part of that category…)

12. Facebook statuses – By all means post that you’re feeling sad and everything in your life is going wrong but don’t tell me “I don’t want to talk about it” when I ask you what’s wrong. WHY DID YOU POST THAT STATUS THEN IDIOT.

13. Phones – People who cannot get off their phone for one minute. For crying out loud would you live in the moment.

14. “Calm down dear” – I hope you know that by saying that you are simply fueling my anger

15. Secret anorexics – saying “phwoar I ate so much!” When you literally just ate half a biscuit the whole day

16. Chain mail – the amount of times I’ve died because I haven’t forwaded an e-mail and screamed “Bloody Mary” is ridiculous.

17. Awkward pronunciation – Scone, almond, rant etc…

18. – “Why are you staring at my boobs?” – I’m a girl, but if your boobs are hanging out, I’m GOING to stare at them.

19.  Apple – Stop updating everything all the time!! (And you’re ridiculously overpriced..) Why do people buy your stuff?? Also – what is the point of Ipads? You may as well get a laptop.

20. Moody employees – Why would I want to buy anything from you when you’re giving me the evils the entire time?! Isn’t the customer always right?? Especially true for teenage employees. Uch.

21. Politics – Why are you complaining about our political situation whilst proving you know absolutely nothing about it?   Also people who vote based on their parents views or no views at all *cough* Dani *cough*.

22. Obsession – People who only know how to talk about the opposite sex. Please find some other interests.

23. People who don’t “believe” in Climate Change/Sustainability – You’re wrong. *Cough* Mr Bremner *Cough*

24. One word texters – I know you’re SO busy but could I trouble you to type a full sentence please?

25. Wine snobs – Only about 0.00001% actually know anything about wine so stop pretending.

26. Teenage couples saying “I love you” to each other – Excuse me while I puke and then proceed to laugh for 10 minutes.

27. Text language – I understand the point in shortening words in texts but if you’re using the same amount of letters why do you want to make it seem like you can’t spell?! Hai babii dawl hope urrr in for 2k13 partay. Uch stop.

28. Central London Accent – That accent people in the city put on to make themselves feel important.

29. Reality TV – now I’m not talking about things like The Apprentice, Wife Swap or BNTM, I’m talking about shows that really shouldn’t be on TV like Geordie Shore, Big Brother, I’m a Celeb and X-factor. How are they so popular?? 90% of the time it is just promiscuous orange people running around trying to create drama.

30. Orange people – I doubt you went to the Caribbean over the weekend so please take that off your face.

I think I’ll stop there before I feel the need to enrol myself in anger management classes.

(Half of these weren’t even “cultural” but SHHH!)

Slutwalk

4 Jul

The slutwalk protests began last year on the 3rd March following an officer in Toronto’s comments about Rape – in his exact words “women should avoid dressing like sluts in order not to be victimized”.

Since then, the protests have spread to cities all over the globe, including my own in London.

The core message at heart of these protests was “yes means yes and no means no” regardless of how women dress. Over 80% of rape victims do not report the assault to the police and to hear comments that partially shift responsibility of rape onto the victim is even more damaging. Most of these women feel that they will be blamed because of their dress or alcohol intake…

The message should be DON’T RAPE – rather than DON’T GET RAPED – which is what many were casually suggesting. For example, in 1999, Italy’s highest court ruled that a woman who wore jeans couldn’t be raped as it is impossible to remove a pair of pants “without the collaboration of the person wearing them.” To know that that is the attitude within the legal system that is supposed to be protecting us is horrifying.

There has been some criticism to the protests however, which focused on the way they were aiming to deliver this message. “Slut” has always been a term used as an insult, so attempting to “reclaim” it seems pointless. Society’s bi-polar attitude towards women’s sexuality “slut” if they are sexually active and “frigid” for not accepting advances – is not addressed.

Some feminists decided not to participate in the protest as they don’t want to be seen as accepting the term. They did not want their sexuality to be defined in male terms. As a result, the campaign offered to change its name – welcoming a choice of 4 options: Slutwalk, End the Shame, Yes Means Yes and Shame Stop. In the end the name remained but the fact that some of the organisers wanted to change it highlighted how divided different branches of feminism were on the protests.

The point of the protest – to change the attitude towards rape and allow women to have the freedom to dress however they wish without allowing to be a factor in blaming them as if they are “asking for it” – is a positive one. What a woman wear should not be relevant to the guilt of her attacker. Critics who accuse the protests of “celebrating sluttiness” are missing the focal point of the movement.

The name and nature of the protests shouldn’t be criticised, they were effective in attracting attention in order to deliver the key message: blame the rapist not the victim – whatever they were wearing.

Russian Grannies

27 May

The Eurovision used to be a big deal back in the day. Now, no one cares about it. But being the loyal Eurovision supporter since Estonia won in 2001, I watch it every year, despite how bad it gets. I do miss Terry Wogan I must say..

The cute little grannies from a small village in Russia, who are saving up to rebuild their church, were without a doubt the HIGHLIGHT of the night.

Catchy stuff.

P.s. I find it absolutely hilairious that Spain’s finance minister (or someone of the sort) ordered the Spanish entry not to win, as they could not afford it…

Recent Deliveries :D

19 May

Ridiculous that I had to pay £11 postage for these from China, but they’re so gorgeous it’s almost worth it!

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I had to finally buy wooden bokkens as I kept scaring everyone with my semi-real metal sword…

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And finally… I just got a postcard from a friend in Beijiing and I must say I am very impressed with their envelopes….

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